After the disappointment that comes when you learn that your spouse is a drug addict it is not easy to help him/her out of the addiction. The situation will lead you to depression because of the abnormal behaviors that they will develop. Guilt and depression being some of the psychological effects of addiction can, in turn, make you spouse distance themselves from you.
There is still hope that he/she can get back to sobriety even after wasting your words trying to talk to him/her. The article herein discusses some of the steps that you can take to get your spouse back to being sober.
Understanding that addiction is a situation beyond your spouse control is the first step that you should take in order to see him/her sober again. Understanding will help you in getting to know how you can help them without them shutting themselves. You should ensure that they know that you are there for them and try to view things as they do.
Instead of quarreling them every time that they are drunk you should instead find the reason for their drinking. No one abuses drugs with the primary reason to get addicted since addiction comes as a side effect. Addiction being a side effect shows that it was not their decision and they are wishing to quit as much as you would wish.
After understanding the situation that your spouse in you should influence him/her to accept professional help. They might not be will to disclose their situation to other people because of fear of being stigmatized and judged. In order to eliminate the thought of stigma and judgment, you should talk to them about results of going to detox centers. Try and change their perception of stigmatization and judgment professionalism of the counselors in the detox centers. Your spouse drug addiction should remain a family secret unless he/she is willing to share with friends or family.
It is also your responsibility to ensure that your spouse is in good state of health. You should not give up on your spouse even is the detoxification period takes longer than you expected. Good health in body and mind will accelerate the detoxification process and quit addiction faster. Good body health can be achieved by ensuring that they are on good diet and exercising regularly.
Take part in the exercise to boost his/her commitment to it. Therefore, if you truly love your spouse you should not give up on him/her and instead support them. By understanding them, encouraging to seek professional help, and ensuring that they are in good state of health, you significantly reduce the recovery time and also get an opportunity to be closer to them.